Problems meeting gay men?

I seem to have no problem meeting straight men, while trying to meet gay men. Just an example: I could be at a social event filled with hundreds of attractive gay men, but if there was 1 attractive straight man in the room, then he would be the only one who is nice to me and would eventually ask for my number or email address. At my new job, there is this one straight guy that is very very attractive, and the gay men there told me that they have tried for years to at least get a hello and they can't even get a hello in response from him. 5 months into my employment at the company, and that same guy and I have become workout buddies, drinking buddies, I've met his girlfriend, and he's even driven me home on his motorcycle. He has even slept over on my sofa when he was either drunk or tired to go home. Our friendship is strictly platonic, and he visits me in my department all the time, and the gay guys want to know what I have done that they've tried for years to do (to at least be considered a friend). I don't know what to tell them. I'd like to befriend gay men just as easily, but all I get from gay men is rudeness. One last excample... There was a gay guy at my gym in the hot tub. He has a tattoo, an Arabic tattoo of his name, on his right arm. I have the exact same Arabic Tattoo on my right arm. I figured I'd comment on it. I said that was a nice tattoo and I commented that my name was Daij as well and I showed him the same tattoo, to which he replied "could you be anymore obvious?" Then he stormed out. There was a straight guy in the hot tub as well ( with the best body i have seen in a long time) who asked what that guy's problem was. I said I didn't know. Anyway, that straight guy and I are friends. We've exchanged numbers and he even texts me during the day. Even went to his place yesterday where his girlfriend made dinner for us. So, what's my problem with meeting gay men? My being nice to people serves no ulterior motive. I can speak to a gay man and get rudeness. I can speak to a straight man and at least get a hello.